family crisis

i do understand when people say there will be tear and laughter in a family.. bet every family having them and i know every family do face their own prob.. everyone must have envy others people family.. who didn.. appearance very important what.. but somehow no matter how positive u think, u will be lose all the positive aspect and left only negative one with u.. worst is when u hav to be in between 2 dearest family members when they quarrel..
well, i do know we do not hav the freedom to pick who's our family members are.. friends we can choose, husband we can choose, boss we can choose.. everyone around us we can choose.. but not our family members.. it's been arranged since long ago.. it is as easy as saying u wan others to be ur family... rite?
i am losing all the positive aspect.. and i am breaking up too.. without anyone positive around, the family is going to break.. young will will be the victim of such tragic.. how come there aren any solution? why are the challenges to face when they already have enough prob with them? i dun understand why did he need such a challenge.. he might be a jerk sometime, but i could see that he is trying his very best to be the perfect dad and perfect hubby.. he deserve chances but i understand he was given lots chances and he didn appreciate them..
on the other hand, pity the she as she faced a lot of prob.. with work and she had to deal with the kids when her husband giving her so many prob.. we couldn judge who is the right one and who is the wrong one.. i bet there are wrong and right at both side..
it is not my prob rite? why should i care? they are part of my family.. that's why.. and it involved my parent in them.. my parent care yet helpless and there been quarrel and tears.. this all started because we have love and care toward each others..
positive energy can u come to me?? please....